and when i say relationship, i mean two people knowing each other. Because its not got a label on it. started seeing each other awhile ago (09/06) posted some issues in here before about her. she gets hot/cold hot/cold hot/cold. She's going thru a divorce, and today found out that she may want to work things out with this guy because she can't get over him and everyone makes mistakes blah blah blah. I know she cares about me because she gets jealous of other girls all the time, and we've been intamite over the past 8 months (but like i said hot/cold) I care a lot about her and want her to be happy, but this guy has phsyically harmed her in the past and done some mean shit also. So if she wants to be with him and that makes her happy, then fine. But i don't want to be any part of that. But part of me feels like i'm abandoning her, and it feels like i'm being mean to her by ignoring her if thats the path that she chooses. am i being selfish here???