Thoughts on this situation. Regarding Alcohol and dinner and an alcoholic.

[DeezNortz]

Respect the tag as i'm actually looking for actual opinions on the situation.

My dad is getting married in 2 weeks (that's another thread.).

It's a tiny ceremony with a total of 10 people. after the ceremony we are all going out to dinner at a very nice place.

My fathers new wife's brother is a gigantic DB that's ive had the pleasure of meeting a few times. Reminds me of a real life Ron Burgundy (but not cool).

Apparently he's an alcoholic. And i'm told because of him the dinner must be dry. 0 wine. 0 booze at all. Not that my wife and I need to drink...but a glass of wine with a nice dinner is always a nice thing. And it sucks a little more because i don't think my wife and I have been to a restaurant together in 2020. but that's no one's problem but ours.

Not that anything will come of this...but i'm toying with how i feel about the rule. Seems a little stupid.

He's in his 50's. He's a grown up. Should my wife and I have to skip a glass of wine with dinner because of him? or am i being selfish for feeling this way?

doesn't really matter. i'm not going to say anything and this is far from a situation i'd look for conflict over...but something about it seems dumb to me.

 

[FutureMan]

It’s not your party to be making requests about what is or isn’t served and you don’t have to like it. What is even the question here?

 

[smell my finger]

it's up to your dad and his wife. yes, you're being selfish; not your party.

 

[FutureMan]

It’s not uncommon to keep temptation out of the situation when a family member has a history of abuse. Drink on your own time.

 

[DeezNortz]

ok. fair enough.

 

[cjonesy22002]

no telling what kinds of problems he's had

 

[BlasterMaster]

If it was your wedding it would be a different story, but since it’s your dad’s then you should probably just tough it out and not cause unnecessary drama

 

[monolith]

Skip it. You’re not teenagers, you’ve had alcohol before. There is nothing to gain from drinking. Just causing unnecessary bullshit.

 

[DeezNortz]

If it was your wedding it would be a different story, but since it’s your dad’s then you should probably just tough it out and not cause unnecessary drama

we're presenting no drama. no arguments. we'll go to dinner and have water. was just looking for opinions.

 

[Formz]

Who told you it needs to be dry? If this isn't a request from the sober person I cannot imagine him being comfortable with going to a place where he knows some one ELSE made the choice for him.

 

[ChemicalWhore]

have a glass of wine when you get home, it’s not a big deal

 

[whatever]

his wedding his rules. suck it up butter cup.


just go to the bathroom and take a swing from your flask.

 

[DeezNortz]

Who told you it needs to be dry? If this isn't a request from the sober person I cannot imagine him being comfortable with going to a place where he knows some one ELSE made a choice for him.

also a fair point. i think the new wife said it has to be because of him. not sure. he mentioned it to me today. not a big deal.

 

[cjonesy22002]

@Rev. Johnny Vegas @crotch @Evan

 

[FutureMan]

we're presenting no drama. no arguments. we'll go to dinner and have water. was just looking for opinions.

Roll in with an igloo cooler full of jungle juice and if anyone asks “it’s to prevent covid contamination from the waiter”

 

[DeezNortz]

his wedding his rules. suck it up butter cup.


just go to the bathroom and take a swing from your flask.

i don't need alcohol in that sort of way. I just like a glass of red with a steak here and there.

 

[whatever]

i don't need alcohol in that sort of way. I just like a glass of red with a steak here and there.

not your meal. not worth the battle.

 

[Phx Cobra]

Not really your place to force the issue, maybe after the dinner is over you and your wife go sit at the bar and have a glass of wine together to make up for it?

 

[jrmcm]

You'll survive if you don't have a glass of wine.
He quite literally might not survive if he falls off the wagon.
So, yeah.

 

[DeezNortz]

not your meal. not worth the battle.

no battle. this isn't a big deal. just a little bored at work and figured pass some time and ask OT

 

[DeezNortz]

Not really your place to force the issue, maybe after the dinner is over you and your wife go sit at the bar and have a glass of wine together to make up for it?

solid idea.

 

[stevezissou]

Respect the tag as i'm actually looking for actual opinions on the situation.

My dad is getting married in 2 weeks (that's another thread.).

It's a tiny ceremony with a total of 10 people. after the ceremony we are all going out to dinner at a very nice place.

My fathers new wife's brother is a gigantic DB that's ive had the pleasure of meeting a few times. Reminds me of a real life Ron Burgundy (but not cool).

Apparently he's an alcoholic. And i'm told because of him the dinner must be dry. 0 wine. 0 booze at all. Not that my wife and I need to drink...but a glass of wine with a nice dinner is always a nice thing. And it sucks a little more because i don't think my wife and I have been to a restaurant together in 2020. but that's no one's problem but ours.

Not that anything will come of this...but i'm toying with how i feel about the rule. Seems a little stupid.

He's in his 50's. He's a grown up. Should my wife and I have to skip a glass of wine with dinner because of him? or am i being selfish for feeling this way?

doesn't really matter. i'm not going to say anything and this is far from a situation i'd look for conflict over...but something about it seems dumb to me.

Your wedding = your call
Someone else's wedding = their call

On a personal note.
I was in a 14 person wedding in October with 2 people who didn't drink and the bride just made sure and told the servers who didn't get served booze and to take the wine/champagne glasses away and not to serve them.

So there are ways of handling it but yeah not your call.

 

[DeezNortz]

You'll survive if you don't have a glass of wine.
He quite literally might not survive if he falls off the wagon.
So, yeah.

fair point

 

[stevezissou]

Not really your place to force the issue, maybe after the dinner is over you and your wife go sit at the bar and have a glass of wine together to make up for it?

Good idea

 

[Twinsen]

If you're that much of an alcoholic, take a flask of wine with you and recuse yourself to the bathroom every few minutes. Problem solved.