The first few girls I had sex with, I was lucky to be the minute man. I remember one time where I thrusted 4 times and came. Another time I came putting on a condom. It was just ridiculous with the first 3 girls. A big part of it was that the girls were young (first 2 girls were 14) and we did it without condoms (yeah yeah, i know). But even that aside, i was a minute man. Finally, girl #4 (who i ended up marrying), i was able to have sex like normal after we did it enough. Sometimes it would be 10 minutes, other times 45, etc. Finally I was having normal sex that was fulfilling to both parties. We've now been married 6 years, and as expected, our sex life isn't as active. We have sex once every week or 2. So when we do have sex, I'm lucky to last 2-3 minutes. I know that if we had sex every day, I could build my "tolerance" back up, so to speak. But since we don't do it as often, I don't know what to do. I find that when I don't masterbate often, I'm REALLY quick. And if I masterbate almost daily, I can last 5-10 minutes if I'm lucky. So what can I do to help this? Masterbate 3 times a day? I've seen cremes that reduce sensitivity and are supposed to prolong sex, but i don't want to go that route. Any thoughts would be appreciated.