I'm asking this question, not because I didn't already make my own decision, but because I'm feeling very reflective today. And I've had conflicting advice from 4 people, 2 say no, 2 say yes. My relationship with my current guy is more than a little messed up, even I admit it. There's numerous people telling me that I should just ends things, which I understand their reasonings (and explains their answer to the question) but at the same time, I'm not ready to just throw in the towel and neither is he. Yesterday, while he was over, while we were having sex, I started bleeding - a LOT. There was deffinitely something wrong, but since I had no clue what it was, I told him I'd be fine, I'd call the Dr's office and sent him to work. Less than an hour later, I miscarried, not even knowing I was pregnant. I had felt rather nauseated a few weeks ago, but other than that, NOTHING. I even got what I thought was my period on Wednesday, and even though it was light, I didn't think anything of it. Apparently, I should have. Anyway, this is the gross part, I kept the sack, because I didn't know if the Dr's office would want it to do a pathology report or not (they do and they are doing one, today). After it passed, I got extremely ill, shaking, weak, fatigued, cramping, etc. I followed Dr's advice and just rested. I called a couple of friends because I needed someone to talk to about this. When I asked if I should tell my guy, 2 guys said no. 2 Gals said yes. When my guy got off work, he called me immediately because he was concerned. When I told him I didn't want to talk about it over the phone, he came right over without any hesitation. When he got here, he could tell I was in a lot of pain and he wanted to know what the Dr said. When I hesitated, he started making guesses and finally I told him what happened. He was very genuinely concerned and upset. Not upset with me, but upset that he wasn't here when it happened. When I asked him if I made a mistake telling him, he said no. I dont' think I did either, but it got me wondering and I can't stop. Guys - if your SO had a miscarriage for a pregnancy she didn't even know she was carrying, would you want to know? Gals - if you had a miscarriage with a pregnancy you didn't realize you were pregnant with, would you keep it to yourself? I never realized how both physically and emotionally draining something like this is on a person. I honestly hope I never have to go through this again. Oh, and we were using condoms, but nothing else, which is probably how I got pregnant in the first place. I'm scheduled for an IUD placement next week, but that may have to be postponed, I still have to ask about that. AND I have to have an Ultrasound performed to ensure that there's nothing left from the baby.