I think I'm way too much of a nice guy . Actually, I AM too much of a nice guy. My friends call me whipped, and I know it too. I always want to spend time with her, but she likes to busy herself with other things (friends, rehearsals for the school play, etc.). Whether she does this to keep some sort of independence, or to hint at that I need to stop being so whipped, or she may not know wtf she's doing. It's both of our first relationships. I feel like my nice-guy attitude has kind of sucked the spark out of our relationship. What can I do to relight that spark? I'm not talking about sex, but just the feeling that makes you appreciate your SO. It's more or less gone, I feel.