Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by novo, Jan 29, 2009.
The bears seem to love it, somebody always get hurt in the end. Usually one of the origional couple.
I know a couple triads and they seem to do ok, as well as any couple anyway.
I just wonder if other people seem to look at them as "weird" or "wrong" similarly to how a straight person would look to a gay person.
I considered it once. A couple wanted to go on a date with me. I met them both on manhunt after my relationship went south. They would both be on manhunt, with separate profiles, both trolling for guys... I talked with one of them, and he said that they loved each other but didn't have sex anymore. And they owned a business together. So, they wanted to stay in their relationship, but wanted a third to create that spark again.
I was attracted to one of them, but not so much to the other. So, I considered meeting up with them to see if there was any chemistry...
But, then I thought to myself: "Self? Is this going to be satisfying for me? And how do I explain that to people? And how would holidays go? 'Hey ma, this is Gary and this is Mark. They're my boyfriends' And how would the hierarchy work? Would I be their little sex toy? No thanks...."
So, I didn't do it.
I can't really see how it would work, unless all three men were very low-drama, go-with-the-flow kind of guys.
I think this is the main problem with them.
but what if you were attracted to both?
I think it could actually create a pretty interesting dynamic, i mean, if it worked.
If one was busy for a movie date, or dinner date, i could go with the other.
An extra pair of hands to help clean the apt
instead of two, three people in the same relationship
kind of like polygamy
ooooh. threesomes are an epic fail....when theres ABSOLUTLEY NO relationship status between any parties. i couldnt imagine this triad thing
i would never have a "triad" relationship... i dont see how that could ever work out
couldn't imagine it?
you have two bf's instead of one, you all live together and share together.
i know a triad that's been together for over a year and they seem pretty happy.
They are mostly the inspiration for this thread.
i'm just interested in what the role dynamic would be like.
wow, everyone seems so easily dismissive about it.
you are allowed to take time to think about it.
eh. not for me. one word comes to mind....... jealousy
I think its wrong.
I dont need to think about it. I think its just as wrong for a straight couple as it would be for a gay couple. Perhaps this belongs in FS?
what's wrong about it?
it happens in nature just like homosexuality does.
It goes against my moral beliefs...Volcanos erupt in nature, it doesnt mean I have to agree that they are good for the earth or myself. Love should be between 2 people. Simple as that.
I love YOU, not I love you and him too, and her, and him as well.
im not throwing it out like that. i just cant see it working. jealousy would play a HUGE role in it. and it wouldnt end well
oh of course, i'm just entertaining the idea if you found two people it did work with.
reminds me of christians vs homos
oh, and volcanos are good for the earth.
when people say being gay is wrong, I don't agree obviously, but I know where it might come from. My parents raised me to have standards, morals, and beliefs and from the knowledge they gave me I formed my own beliefs and standards. Just not my thing. Am I going to stop anyone from doing it? No, but I just would never even entertain the idea.
wait, i'm a christian and a homo
Yep. I would get too jealous and I know my gf would too. I don't think it's wrong however and I'm sure it does work for a lot of people. I have been watching lots of polygamy youtubes lately and I'm fascinated by the idea it's just not for me.
As long as it doesn't hurt anyone and everyone is honest with each other I think everyone has the right to chose how they want to live their lives.
p.s triad sounds like some sort of asian gang