Fawk, this sucks and it's mainly my fault. Every couple months me and my SO have an "argument" where we talk things out and how things aren't going too well. It usually involves me being lazy, and that's honestly a big part of it... or at least it appears so. The thing is, I don't go to class because I can still 4.0 my classes just from reading the book. And I don't "go to work" because I work twice a week for 16 hours each shift (which is still 32-40 hours). During my free time I usually play video games or just do whatever since noone wants to hang out unless it's the weekend... I contribute to household chores like cleaning pretty regularly, but I don't take care of her cat/lizard because honestly I don't know how often they're supposed to get fed and they're her pets. Anyway, a big part of it is financial too and I feel it's not entirely my fault. Before I got my 2nd part time job I put our shared groceries, bills, rent, etc. on my credit cards and now I'm paying it off. The problem is my personal bills (cell phone, car, settling CC debt) is almost exactly what I can afford so not much is leftover when it comes to paying energy bills, cable, etc. And a small portion of the rent that my parents don't cover (they actually give me $600/mo for rent, which you'd think would at least partially make up for me not contributing as much personally... rent is $640/mo). The good news is that I'm getting a better job in the upcoming weeks, I'm currently selling a few expensive items I've been holding onto, and I'll be 100% debt free by the end of November, and in January I get my student loan leftovers which = about $4,000 of cash money. Still I wish I could've taken care of things sooner, which is why I'm realizing now I could have solved a lot of these issues beforehand by getting a new job when I realized my current one sucks, selling some of my guns I never use when bills weren't getting paid, etc. My SO came up to me tonight and said things weren't working out for mainly the above reasons (she's kinda supporting me, and I'm not always working when I could be picking up more hours) and started talking about separating/breaking up. (We've been together for 5 years BTW) She seemed pretty dead set on it when we started talking, but now it seems kind of wishy-washy. I know how she feels because I've fallen out of love with her before but I kinda stuck with her because I knew (at the time anyway) that she was the one and I probably wouldn't meet another girl like her. She says we're different now, I say we've grown. But it sucks to have this on my shoulders now because our lease runs out in 2-3 weeks and we were planning on moving in with our friends (also a couple). Now I don't know what to tell my friend because I want to work things out, but if she's not coming with me I might need to make new living arrangements. Anyway, I'm just ranting trying to get this all off my chest. I'm not really sure what to think at this point... I really want to be with her, and I'm okay with her falling out of love as long as her heart is in it and she gives it a good try. I can see how she fell out of love in the first place since I haven't been there for her as much as I should have. I know things will get better if we stick out, right now I'm in a rough spot in my life (stuck in a degree I hate, working a job that I hate, always broke... But I'm almost graduated, almost have a new job, and a lot of $$ is coming my way )But now that it's time to move out of this apartment maybe it would be a good time to separate and see other people or whatever. Sucks being a procrastinator. Anyway let me know what you all think.