yea so stupid me decided it would be a good idea to date a co-worker...we both started around the same time last year, never really payed much attn to eachother, we both had SO's at the time...anyway, around january this yr we really started hitting it off..both single at this point, sh had just ended an 8mo relationship about 3 weeks before, and i ended a 3 yr relationship about 6 months before...anyway, we hit it off so incredibly well that after a few weeks of hanging out i decided it was ok to go for it..so we kiss etc, take it really slow bc i didnt want to jump into something with a co-worker if it wasnt gonna be something worth while.. anyway, things went incredible, we became really really close quickly, both had a lot of feelings for eachother and always were very open about how we felt..she always said she had never been able to alk to her bf the way she did to me, and tell them how she felt like she tld me...anyway by mid february we were official and shortly there after we consmated the relationship for real, since b4 was just hands and oral and stuff..sooo things still going really well, could not get enough of eachother....at work we kept it a secret, even tho its not against the rules, its an office of 30 close people and shit spreads like fire and we didnt want it to be known...we would always sneak letters, meet a floor up for a quick kiss even got to break in a private bathroom one day on the sink! haha yes! never really had any issues between eachother about work, we were good about keeping it seperate or atleast not fighting over shit that had to do with work... sounds great right? so rewind to the beginning of the relationship...im 24 as is she...at this point i have a career, and want to start moving forward in life and settle down a bit, not go crazy as much and just chill and grow up bc i feel like im ready to do so and im not big on going out and getting plastered anyway...so when we met she totally agreed, ALWAYS said how her friends always go out and get wasted and she doesnt know how they do it bc she just couldnt do that anymore..she did it in college and was over it...annnnnnd then she signed in for a shore house for the summer with 8 other girls...fine, no biggie, she kept saying she wanted it for the beach and to lay out (tanarexic) and that she just isnt into the getting fukced up scene anymore.. so memorial day weekend, it starts, friday nigth she rushes down after work,leaves early in fact...i sty home...so she texted me a time or two and might hve called once or so, i get a call at like 3am...she can not even speak, all i hear is laughing uncontrolably....so anyway she hangs up on acident like 3 times, and keeps calling me back anwyay, so i get pissed..finaly she calls when she gets home, i thought she was high or soemthing bc her friends friends are big smokers...she says she isnt.. next morning i drivedown to meet up and lay on the beach for the day and was planning on staying the night and going to my friends BBQ the next day and she was gonna come with...well about 2:00 im so annoyed bc all i hear about all day is stories from the night b4 about how she couldnt even stand etc etc and it just really pissed me off bc like shit were 24 yrs old, whats the point of drinking to tht extent? why? so we start to talk and she decided she wants to go down to the house every single weekend for friday night, sat and sun, and im invited... well i have friends and family too and would like to see them...im also soooo not into the guido shore pump it up scene i wanna hang myself stepping into those places.....so we basically came to a fork and we could not compromise at all..she was not willing to give up any time down there...i didnt understand bc it was against eveyrthing she ever sid and we were so incredibly close that it was just all not right... i still dont get it, just dont get it at all...nothings changed and its definatley over for good...thing hat sucks is that shes about 10 feet aay all day and i gotta hear the stories every monday from the weekend and every friday how excited she is for it and it pisses me off so much.. worst part is we were so close and i feel so mis-led like she lied the hwole time about who she really was...she was never that way till now and thats whats so annoying about it...she shoulda just been honest upfront and i woulda went a different direction to be honest...she was always ery upfront and honest and i know it wasnt something going on behind my back or anything just weird...anyway dont combine work and play, no matter how confident you are in it, and even if you can work together with nor problems, if u break up it will be hell...i can not concentrate at all and our job depends 100% on urself and nothing else so this month is gonna be a little rough... anything good to say? right now im pretty bitter and mad and upset about it.