I didnt feel like reopening the 'how to I tell my family I am engaged' thread, so here is an update. Believe it or not, I did seriously think about the suggestions mentioned here about not going through with this. I discussed it throughly with my fiance, and we did decide to move forward. His family is being emotionally supportive, while mine is at least being financially supportive. My dad is hesitant, but being helpful. He will can talk about it without running away, but its still a little difficult. He is a printer and has offered to help us with the inviations. My mom is accepting, but still acting like somewhat of a jerk. She is paying for the wedidng, and is finding lots of ways to hold the money over our heads and subliminally protesting. For instance: While we were looking over the venue (ceremony and reception are being held at the same site) she had to complain that the reception hall was too far from the ceremony lawn. The rep said no one had EVER complained of that before and she has done tons of weddings there. Also, right before paying the deposit on the place, she had the rep go in depth on their cancellation policies and kept trying to figure how much money she would get back if we back out. Also, I feel like she keeps overrideing decisions I make about the wedding, on the basis that "she is paying". She made the biggest fit about having her name listed first on the invite since she is paying, even though what I was showing her was not the real invites, but a small mock up of something I was just thinking about. When I did have the invitation wording, I showed her and she decided we had to change it because she didnt like it. I told my aunt, but I havent told my uncles. I have been trying to find the right time. I want to do it in person, but everyone has been a bit busy lately. The person being the worst about it is my sister. She is an extremely immature and spoiled child of 17. She cannot get enough of insulting us and telling us how stupid we are. If we ever get into an arguement at the house it leads to her saying how it doesnt matter cuz I'm moving out in a few months anyway, etc. I'm not sure if anyone wants/ cares to read this, but its helps me a little to write it out. I feel I dont have a lot of people I can rant to about this without them getting bored. Anyway, that is the update.