I am so confused. I tend to over analyze everything. I'm probably doing the same thing right now but I think it's kind of a defense thing. I've been dating this guy. We just passed our 3 month mark two days ago. I feel like things were so intense for the first couple months that things are slowing down a little now. I'm getting really nervous. I've fallen completely in love with this guy. We spend a TON of time together but he seems distant recently. I get the feeling sometimes only recently like he's not fully plugged in although things he says doesn't lead me to believe he's planning on ducking out anytime soon. When we started this relationship in March he had just come out of a 4 year relationship in November. He told me on our first date that there were still feelings there and he wanted to take the relationship slow. We had been friends for awhile and the relationship had major sparks at that point. We are both very attracted to eachother and had been for quite awhile. The relationship grew very rapidly. I was fine with going slow... It didn't quite happen as projected though. I did wait a month to start sleeping with him but with as much time as we spent together, it really ended up not turning out to be so slow after all. We are really comfortable around eachother. We mesh really well. Our personalities and sense of humors are exactly alike. I love his friends (which his ex hated). We all get along really well. About a month ago I told him that I loved him. He responded back the same but I knew that he didn't feel the same. I haven't told him that I love him again since and I believe he is aware of why, because I want to know he means it when and if he ever says it. I do know that he still talks to his ex. They are still friends. I'm ok with that. I'm still friends with my ex husband. I started worrying that she was trying to get him back, which I do think that she is, but I'm not really worried about it on his side anymore. He hasn't been intiating calls or texts (we look through eachother's phone) although he will answer if she calls the times that she does and talk to her for awhile. I'm fine with that. He told me even recently that he is still getting over the relationship which is why things haven't seemed to be progressing (as in "I love you"). I'm trying to be patient. I'm really afriad he is never going to fall. The thing that bothers me is, I don't know if it's just because he doesn't have that ability with me or if he is really still hung up on their relationship. I haven't really brought it up because I don't want to pressure him at this point. I feel like it is still early. I don't know when I should start expecting a little more. Where do you draw the line? I want to be patient. I don't want to hear it if he doesn't mean it. If I could just hear as much as just "I care about you", I would be fine but it's the wishy washiness and this unknown, "does he care?" that is bothering me. Typically we hang out wednesday through sunday night. He normally will spend the weekends at my house with me but the last few weeks (not necessarily haven't spent the time together) but have been up in the air where as before, it was never a question. He has said he will probably go home but ends up packing a bag and staying over the whole weekend anyway with little to no request from me. We are still spending about the same amount of time together but it's not as definate anymore and he doesn't really call me like he used to. He used to call me constantly. The thing that gets me is that all of our time together for the most part is initiated pretty much completely by him but he gives off this vibe like he wants space at the same time. We don't argue ever. I don't nag ever. I rarely bring up any issue at all. He had asked me to go on vacation with him about a month and a half ago. We used to talk about it all the time. We went on one weekend trip together before on the way there we AGAIN talked about going on a lot of trips, Hawaii, Florida, going to watch a Reds game, Chicago and he hasn't said a word about any of it since I told him I loved him on that trip. He used to talk about future vacations and all kinds of things quite often and the only thing future wise that has come up the last few weeks is that he said he'd take me to this restaurant I've never been to someday. I'm starting to get nervous that he's losing interest or I'm losing him. He went away for training this week down in Indy. He's staying in a dorm for the week and it's a pretty heavy course 40 hours with homework, presentations and reading and all. Also said that the week after his training he will be staying the weekend with his friends again. Didn't know if he was coming home for the 4th . He after weeks of knowing about and planning this week and the weekends asked me last minute (the night before) to go and stay the weekend with him and his friends last weekend. I said maybe and then he asked me a little later when I wanted to leave for the trip as if I said I was going. That is the second time he's done that recently which makes me feel better. I decided to go. We had a blast. He called me on my way home to make sure I got off on the highway ok and then he called me later that night... said he may call me later but didn't which was fine because I knew he had stuff he had to do and was probably tired. No big deal. Things like that make me believe things are ok but then tonight he said he "may call me tomorrow if time permits" and he said again, "i'll talk to you sometime soon" all I can think is, "you said you may go out some night for a little bit after class. You are gone for a week, when you care about someone there is always time to call especially when you can't see them even if it's just for a minute." I guess I used to feel like a priority and I'm not feeling that way lately. I just feel these insecurities that I'm not used to with him. It's like this back and fourth one minute things seem great and the next he seems wishy washy. I don't know what this means. It's these little things I pick up on and they just gnaw at me because he wasn't like that before. I'm not used to this and I think it's because it just seems like things if anything are at a stand still and aren't growing. I don't want that, I don't want things to regress. Especially after only 3 months. Up until the last couple weeks I've felt really confident with our relationship. I've felt like I met my partner in crime and this could be the one but I don't know how to take these little twinges of confusion lately.