I swear i'm not talking about myself, even though I'm in a similar situation as this friend. we'll call him Fred. He and his ex, call her Wilma, broke up about 2 weeks ago because they were in a long distance relationship year-round and had been growing apart recently. It was a mutual breakup, but he brought it up. Since the breakup, Wilma has been calling Fred nearly every night and sending him really pathetic and depressing voicemails and text messages pleading for them to get back together. Fred doesn't want to get back together with this girl, but he still cares about her a lot and hates to see her in this much pain, so he picks up his phone, calls her, and tries to console her (for hours). I tell Fred that he needs to stop talking to Wilma, but he says that he can't be "that mean" and he can't bear "to see her that way." So every day they talk, and it's really blocking him from completely getting over her. So my question is: how insistent should I be, as a friend to Fred, in telling him to stop talking to her. I'm at the point where I've talked to him pretty forcefully to stop calling her, but he won't listen. How do I tell him to ignore this girl for awhile so that they can get over each other?