I think that my girlfriend has vaginismus. I have tried fingering her many times, and it is always painful to her. If i do it over the vagina, I can get to the entrance, but her opening is pretty small. I can almost tell she's clenching it. If its not directly over her vagina, it hurts her to even rub on her inner labia. Also, oral sex is painful to her if I lick her labia minora. She also can't use tampons. I think I know why she has it, but I don't want to mention it on a BB. On all of the vaginismus sites i've found, it says to seek a therapist. We are both under eighteen (though not by much), and I highly doubt her parents would let her get sexual therapy. Is there anything we could do to try to get around with, or is there nothing we can do?