I've been married 13 years and I never would have thought I would be getting divorced. I've written several pages on my blog at myspace. In this post I'll give you the Reader's Digest version: We have three boys ages 7, 9 and 11. I was 19 and she was 20 when we married, and we had dated for two years. It was great at first but things slowly deteriorated. The last two years were very difficult at work and my wife kept going on shopping sprees (she doesn't have a job and refuses to get one). Here I was, working my ass off, while my freeloading wife spent it all, and that made me mad. I tried to press on but collapsed into an emotional breakdown and I did and said some things I shouldn't have. Last February my wife filed for divorce. We had been separated for four months and done a lot of talking over the phone, and I was expecting the divorce to be amicable. She filed a motion asking the Family Court to award her spousal support, saying that what I was giving her was not enough. The freeloading bitch claimed that she needed $4,946 a month in living expenses, which is almost double the budget that I had given her (and the money I was voluntarily giving her during the separation). She won approximately $5,200 a month in spousal support. I think the judge must have been retarded, because that's more than my take-home pay. The next few months she would talk to me a little but it was like 1% of what it used to be. I quickly figured out that her attorney told her not to talk to me. I was already $35,000 in credit card debt thanks to her ($15,000 worth of furniture, $1,000 for Christmas presents, etc.) In order to satisfy this outrageous court order as well as paying my own living expenses, I had to borrow shitloads of money on my generous credit lines. By June I was $70,000 in debt and I sold my car (had no car payment). When she bitched that she would have to drive the kids to my apartment for visitation (among other stupid complaints), I gave up all hope of ever paying this debt off, so I figured I may as well finance a car and a motorcycle now while I have the chance, so now I'm $94,000 in debt. Starting in July I paid only the child support and not the alimony (the kids don't deserve to starve to death, and most of the court order is alimony). A few weeks ago the state of South Carolina charged me with contempt of court. I showed the judge my pay stubs to show that I can't afford fucking $3,500 a month in alimony, but it didn't matter ... he sentenced me to six months jail! I couldn't believe it. Luckily my kind mother bailed me out after five days, but now I'm $107,000 in debt as a result. When my wife found out I was in jail for five days she didn't care. Some of the other inmates in the jail suggested that it would be cheaper to have her bumped off. While this is true, that would be really wrong and I would probably end up in prison for the rest of my life. I had a terrible lawyer at first and fired her. Now I have a good lawyer but there's only so much you can do in the fucked up South Carolina Family Court system. We tried mediation but the selfish bitch didn't do anything to reach an agreement. I hope I can get a trial date soon because the state will charge me with contempt of court again in two or three months. This time, however, I'm going to be prepared. Last time I didn't even do the dishes before the hearing. Next time I will do the dishes so that when the apartment people break down the door, it won't smell bad. I'll also pre-pay my car and motorcycle payments so they won't get re-possessed. Yeah, I could borrow another $11,000 from my mother, but I need to make a stand for once. I would rather go to jail than to continue funding my wife's spending habits. I know I majorly fucked up last fall, but she isn't exactly perfect herself, and her reaction is way overkill in my opinion. What kind of selfish bitch sends her hard-working husband to jail (and shrugs about it afterwards) because he doesn't make enough money for her? My advice to men: 1) don't get married; 2) if you do and you cheat, don't admit it! Deny, deny, deny!!!