This might belong in the day care, but I'm willing to bet more people will see it here. I'd like opinions: both my side of the family and my wife's side are celebrating on Christmas Day. My side of the family hardly sees our son. They see him maybe once a month, or less for extended family, with the exception of my father who sees him more regularly but won't be in attendance (we're visiting him on a different day). My wife's side of the family sees him every week (or every other) for hours, if not days. My wife feels that her family is more deserving of our visit during Christmas because they "make more of an effort to see him and be involved". Therefore, my family is not as deserving because they already do not visit him often. Basically my family just gets together on holidays. Another of my wife's points was that our son would have more fun with her side of the family because there are kids his age there. I agree with that. However, he's young (19 months) and probably will entertain himself anyway. I feel that we should be making the sacrifice to visit my family so that they can spend time with our son. Personally, I could care less and do not see the significance in the holiday season. What do you guys think? Do you agree that the family that works harder to see him deserves it more, or the family that doesn't make as much effort? I feel that allowing him to visit would be a gift to either family, and my wife's side of the family experiences that often.