SRS What are my chances of her coming? She contact me twice after the breakup? Is she testing me?

[MM]

@Smeghead c'mon man. PICS

I’m sure if you dig deep enough you have pics with her somewhere man.

 

[SBrooks1]

I’m sure if you dig deep enough you have pics with her somewhere man.

Man I have a pic of me and Britney Spears from the 2000's I can't find. When I find that it's going in a thread all it's own.

 

[rcm]

Man I have a pic of me and Britney Spears from the 2000's I can't find. When I find that it's going in a thread all it's own.

Did you check your spank bank

 

[Gavin]

Damn, damn that was deep and make sense. I'm sucha an idiot to be honest.
I kinda hope she's doing this as a powerplay because that would mean she still wants me. I'm pretty sure she misses me.
To be friend would put me in the friendzone, no? Maybe it's good what Im doing already. Letting her initiate the contact which has done twice..and keep it light and casual. I want her to feel like I'm already moving on and she has to revert the breakup before she loses me.

No you don't want this to be a power play because that is a sign of immaturity and that's not a good trait of a healthy relationship -- not that this has started out in a good place. I am willing to bet that she does miss you, but she's trying to protect herself.

Being a friend is meaning that you are willing to be a part of her life and show that you care about who she is, not only for her value in a relationship. If she does miss and want you, getting out of the friendzone should be trivial. If you love her as you say, you should invest some time to find out where it goes -- as you said, you've clearly wasted enough of her time.

 

[MM]

Man I have a pic of me and Britney Spears from the 2000's I can't find. When I find that it's going in a thread all it's own.

I cannot wait lol.

I’m driving down your way this weekend.

I’m going to be at McGahysville and Meadows of Dan

 

[skeletor25rs]

You sound young.

I bet you say that to literally everyone.

 

[MM]

No you don't want this to be a power play because that is a sign of immaturity and that's not a good trait of a healthy relationship -- not that this has started out in a good place. I am willing to bet that she does miss you, but she's trying to protect herself.

Being a friend is meaning that you are willing to be a part of her life and show that you care about who she is, not only for her value in a relationship. If she does miss and want you, getting out of the friendzone should be trivial. If you love her as you say, you should invest some time to find out where it goes -- as you said, you've clearly wasted enough of her time.

First paragraph yes
Second paragraph is a hard no man

 

[MM]

I bet you say that to literally everyone.

Lmaooo

 

[wildflower]

I bet you say that to literally everyone.

It's literally always true.

 

[SBrooks1]

I cannot wait lol.

I’m driving down your way this weekend.

I’m going to be at McGahysville and Meadows of Dan

Nice. You hitting up Massanutten? Meadows is south of me. I'm in Roanoke. We have Festival in the Park here this weekend.

 

[OverLamer]

I’m sure if you dig deep enough you have pics with her somewhere man.

Im dead

 

[MM]

Nice. You hitting up Massanutten? Meadows is south of me. I'm in Roanoke. We have Festival in the Park here this weekend.

Niiice. Not quite sure the agenda yet but am stoked to go

 

[Smeghead]

Text her to hang out and see where it goes. There’s nothing to lose but everything to gain.

Rejection and pride

 

[Smeghead]

That’s exactly what I’m saying.

I’m not trolling, having a little fun with my choice of words, but not trolling.

She loved you. You shitted on her. She got you back and keeps finding excuses to connect with you.

Your both playing hard to get but the ball is in your court and you don’t even realize it

The ball is in HER court! I told her I love her on the phone and we met for lunch where I try to convince her to basically go with me! She said no after digesting it the whole weekend. She had me there. She could've just said yes if she wanted it. But she said "no".
So the ball is in her court! Despite of what happened in the past.

 

[MM]

Rejection and pride

How old are you?
How fragile is your fuckin ego.

Just walk away and go meditate. You need to work on yourself. Stop ruining her life.

 

[MM]

The ball is in HER court! I told her I love her on the phone and we met for lunch where I try to convince her to basically go with me! She said no after digesting it the whole weekend. She had me there. She could've just said yes if she wanted it. But she said "no".
So the ball is in her court! Despite of what happened in the past.

Bruh.
I’m telling you it wasn’t enough.
Keep pursuing her and stop with this small taint energy your bringing to the table.

 

[joxxer]

Do a grand gesture or forget her and move on. Good luck

 

[Smeghead]

No trolling. 100% SRS. @Gavin is right too.

Think about it from her perspective. She admitted to you years ago she had feelings for you and you just kept her around for the sex. Now she's moved on (kinda), and you've come back professing that you care but not really showing her anything different.

She is probably willing to burn her relationship with new guy, but she is trying to reconcile her long-held feelings for you with your past pattern of behavior.

Unless you give her some real, concrete proof that you too have changed, and you aren't the same guy who just kept her on standby for years, she's going to be rightfully wary. I don't see it as a powerplay at all...I see it as her giving you a chance but also being careful not to expose herself to be hurt again.

Why doesn't she burn her relationship with new guy then?
How do I give her real concrete proof that I have changed. I told her at the lunch that I want her long term and in a serious way.

 

[joxxer]

Bruh.
I’m telling you it wasn’t enough.
Keep pursuing her and stop with this small taint energy your bringing to the table.

Big big energy

 

[Ballast]

Rejection and pride

Remember when your mom lied when you were in middle-school, and told you "the worst thing a girl can say is no"?

I feel ya. That's why I suggested the casual drinks with the other friends.

 

[Smeghead]

Bruh.
I’m telling you it wasn’t enough.
Keep pursuing her and stop with this small taint energy your bringing to the table.

Keep pursuing her will make me look less attractive to her, wont it? Isn't better to give her the break up like I did when I replied "Okay, I've tried and I did what I could atleast. Life goes on. Wish you all the best with everything." and then went o silent mode.

 

[Normie]

It's what she is thinking. She waited around for two years and then after she moved on, you came sniffing around again. Now the shoe is on the other foot. She is dating someone. You can wait until they break up to try again or do something big!

Don't listen to her, she's one of them

 

[saabguy]

So basically you guys are only interested in each other when the other one is not interested/unavailable.

Got it.

 

[Smeghead]

Remember when your mom lied when you were in middle-school, and told you "the worst thing a girl can say is no"?

I feel ya. That's why I suggested the casual drinks with the other friends.

Maybe yeah. But I feel like I need to give her more space to miss me and she feels more and more that she made a mistake. It's only been a month since the breakup

 

[I<3URANUS]

She's waiting for you to say what you said again. She probably regrets turning you down as she probably listened to advice from someone else. Who knows. However, the next big move is yours. Either tell her to stop playing and get serious or that it's not going to work.