I met a girl, she is white, about a month ago now on Eharmony. I knew going into the relationship that she had a daughter. I found out later the daughter is bi-racial. I also found out that she has a tattoo, bigger than what I thought, on her leg. I also found out last week that she has a tattoo on her chest, around her breast, and she has the name of her father's baby on her chest. The father to the child is still around and sees his daughter every week but I've been told by the girl that their relationship is strictly about their daughter and nothing else. The girl told me she broke up with him when she was 6months pregnant because she found out he was cheatin on her and then she was told by the other girl that they had been seeing each other for a year. SO...the guy was with two girls at once. Basically the dude is player. So....I decided I can look past the daughter and even the tattoos because being bitter over those things is just STUPID. I definately will not be bitter over a little child because she is just a child and knows nothing yet about this world. The tattoos occurred at a different time and a different place in her life and for me to judge someone on that makes me no better than her ex. Now I told my parents about this new relationship (cause they asked) and my mother basically flipped out....BTW, I must mention I am Puerto Rican/Honduran (a hondu-rican ). Now my mother has always been someone that says each race should stick with each other. Like for instance she wouldn't want me marrying a black girl. She's always said dating a black girl is fine but no marriage. I remember when she told me that a while back, I think it was in High School, I was like what the fuck. Love has no boundaries. Love will not matter what she is or where she has come from. Anyway, when I told her that she said She can even accept a white girl and definately a spanish girl but not a black girl and she can't over the fact why white women go out and marry black guys. She also has a thing with tattoo's....basically she is very very old fashion. SO I told my mother the whole lowdown on the relationship...Basically about her daughter, her tattoos and her ex. So unexpectly, my mom flips off the deep end and says that she doesn't like this relationship because she doesn't like the fact that this white girl has a tattoo of another guy's name on her body. And its a black guy. And she had a baby by him too. She said she could accept the daughter cause its only a baby but the tattoo on her chest, she said she does not like that all. She starts saying that in her experience when someone does something extreme like that then they are deeply in love and she said she thinks the girl still has feelings for this guy because why would she go and get something like that. I told her that the guy was the girls first love and YES she was in deep with him BUT the guy cheated on her and he had been cheating on her for over a year with some girl he knew since she was a little baby (they were basically like brother&sister) and the girl was much younger than him. So he basically deceived the girl and broke her heart. And then she started to get all paranoid about the guy and WHAT IF the guy sees me one day and tries to start something and tries to fight me and leaves me in the hospital....or worse. My mother said I am her only son and she doesn't want to see anything happen to me and she doesn't want to phone call from the police sayin to come ID this body. She was basically being very prejudice towards the guy. Basically saying just because he is black he is going to get violent towards me. I actually asked the girl the other day if he were to see me one day, would he be pissed about it and she said he would prolly be but he wouldn't do anything. That he would prolly try to be all buddy buddy with me and stuff. The girl said he is all talk and nothing else. She said she would just rather try to keep us apart anyway. But my mom basically pissed me off with her old-fashion outlook on things. I told her if it had been a white guy or even a spanish guy instead of a black guy she wouldn't be thinking like that. And I was right when I said it because she actually paused to think about it... I know she's just concerned with my well-being but this is ridiculous.....Her paranoia was way over the top. I told her this is 2006 and all that crap about the race thing is bullshit now. People will date whoever now and who cares what race they are. People don't do things like back in the '70's or 60's, people are different now. What was taboo then is no longer taboo now and she just needs to realize that. My whole view on this is now........I don't care that She has a kid, and I don't even care that she has a tattoo of some dude's name on her. Basically its like if she likes me and I like her, everything else will fall into place. I'm not worrying about that guy. The only thing I'm thinking about is the girl and myself and seeing where this can go... sorry, had to vent..... EDIT: forgot to say that the girl says she is into me and likes me and vice versa. Last weekend was the best. We made out like two teenagers We plan to see each other again this weekend. I plan to bring her down to where I live this time...weather might suck so we might just watch a movie and grab some dinner.