Discussion in 'On Topic' started by verbal, Mar 4, 2009.
And know you meant it. I'm talking in love, not loved as a friend.
1 month. I was young and stupid then.
Love isn't the same as being in-love. Loving someone is recognizing that your life is better in any number of different ways because they're in it, and wanting to return the favor. Being in-love is just the anticipation of all that.
ive said it twice in my life. first i was young and i said it after maybe a month. didnt really know the meaning at the time.
second time i knew the girl for over a year and we were good friends. we then dated for about 3 months and i told her. this one i def knew.
When I was 15 my bf told me he loved me on our "1 month anniversary" I remember even then thinking cynically and just telling him I loved him too because it's "what you do." After that I didn't say it for a long time, even if I had relationships that lasted a few months because I just felt it was such bullshit to say it so early on when you still don't really know the person.
My current bf and I didn't say it until at least 9 months or longer into dating.
I think the time limit gets pushed out as people get older because, through one relationship after another, people learn that there really is a whole lot more depth to be explored than they realized when they were younger. People tend to think they love each other when they've gone farther into a relationship with someone than they ever have before, not when they reach some pre-defined milestone.
Actually, I suppose I should say my girlfriend said "I love you" after one month. I didn't answer until later that day, when I'd had a chance to think about it. Turns out she was sick to her stomach the whole afternoon.
The first time I believe it was like 3-4 months and this was when I was 14. i dated that girl for 5 years. The next girl was after about a month. I dated her for 1 1/2 years. I still love both of them. Maybe not as I did at the time but the second girl....that was true love. The girl I fell in love with is still amazing and I miss her very much. The girl that broke my heart is a bitch, two faced ass hole. But thats another story ha ha ha.
At the 4 month marker my girlfriend told me she loved me. When we were having sex on the kitchen table a month later she said "I officially love you!".
I told her I loved her when she made me lunch every work day during the summer and left me a little note. I realized I truly loved her after I got really sick and she took care of me.