LOVE What's the female consensus on weight?

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So we've talked about height and decided that taller was "better". But what about a man's weight relative to his height? I've read plenty of articles and have heard women/girlfriends say "too much muscle mass is gross". I'm curious about general mass though.

Is healthy skinny a turn off to most women? By healthy, I mean falling within the range your general physician might suggest. Obviously this doesn't take into account body fat and muscle mass but still. I believe the suggested weight class for male 5'9 is 140-155 or something. I rarely see people that skinny.

 

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I'm asking because I'm studying obesity right now and have noticed how the majority of people are carrying excess weight. I've also noticed women will find this more "manly", even if it's someone with a gut.

 

[Diesel66]

there's no consensus.
Some girls love that really really skinny look
some like the average
some like chubby
some like a lot of muscles
some like the super body builder look

 

[ForgottenSpiral]

The consensus is that it's a bell curve. The closer you are to the middle, the higher the percentage of women who will be interested in you, but even at the extremes there are women who will be interested.

 

[Ep]

there's no consensus.
Some girls love that really really skinny look
some like the average
some like chubby
some like a lot of muscles
some like the super body builder look

Oh I know that. I meant general consensus, e.g., if you're obese you are extensively unattractive.

I was just curious how many women prefer skinny over say slightly chubby. And since this is the age of obesity and overweight people, I will say that skinny means 5'10 150 pounds. Not a 5'10 170 pound man standing next to someone whose exorbitantly overweight. Let's assume the 170 pound has high body fat.

 

[Ep]

The consensus is that it's a bell curve. The closer you are to the middle, the higher the percentage of women who will be interested in you, but even at the extremes there are women who will be interested.

I think this is a bit common sense. However, isn't the bell curve affected by the average weight? Which is not healthy in this country?

 

[Ep]

I'm probably being incredibly vague considering I'm horribly inarticulate.

My theory is that due to increasing rates of obesity, people who are overweight begin to view themselves as "skinnier" because the social consciousness is changing its idea of "fat" and "skinny"

So I was wondering if this begins to change the mindset of women. If more men are becoming overweight (this includes 20 pounds), then is being a healthy weight considered emasculate?

 

[Dahlia]

I'd take chunky over skinny, but i'm not terribly picky about stuff like that. Unheathly skinny is gross, and obese is gross.

 

[Ep]

Okay good, we're getting somewhere. When you say unhealthy skinny, do you mean this?

or do you mean..

wow I'm trying to find an example of a man and you wouldn't believe the gay shit that pops up.

 

[Ep]

I think you're confused as to what skinny/healthy weight is. 150 lbs is considered healthy for 5'10", and so is 170. I'm only pointing it out because if you want the answers you're after you gotta pick legit numbers.

I was roughly guessing. I actually believe 170 pounds is overweight for that height, unless of course we are talking someone with < 12% body fat.

2 years ago, I was 165 at 5'10 and the doc said I was out of the suggested range.

 

[Dahlia]

I could post pics but I dunno if people will appreciate a ton of dudes.

Yea, that is gross, that's like emaciated and just ewww.

 

[Ep]

how about you just post one? preferably with pants on.. I tried searching google and it was all gay porn. Meanwhile I type in women and I get a bunch of ugly faces. It's bullshit!

 

[Biggins]

The general average for women is Brad Pitt in Fight Club.

 

[Ep]

Well it depends on the person and their individual body, you may be someone who should be 150lbs at 5'10" so an extra 20 lbs is fat... but the range is 141 - 179 for 5'10".

Again, I'm not trying to argue here. Just saying that if you want women to answer you might want to actually google weight ranges or something instead of just making up numbers.

You're absolutely right and I don't take offense brotha. I'm seeing that range on a lot of health sites.

 

[Ep]

The general average for women is Brad Pitt in Fight Club.

See I look something like that and people considering me skinny.

 

[Aquakittie]

I do NOT prefer super fit, muscular men, body builder types.
I do NOT prefer men that are skinnier than me (think starving punk rocker look with skinny jeans tighter than my daughters), and I'd be considered chubby by the Vags standards.
I do NOT want a man to be shorter than me (I'm 5'2").

I prefer men who are bigger builds, big arms, softer middles (that does NOT translate to multiple spare tires or obese).

 

[Dahlia]

how about you just post one? preferably with pants on.. I tried searching google and it was all gay porn. Meanwhile I type in women and I get a bunch of ugly faces. It's bullshit!

If we are talking about skinny, if you've seen pics of PcH, he's not a bad skinny really.

I don't have pics handly of thicker, but the main dude in 300 is a good thick.

and pics of brad pitt look a like?

 

[PcH]

If we are talking about skinny, if you've seen pics of PcH, he's not a bad skinny really.

I don't have pics handly of thicker, but the main dude in 300 is a good thick.

and pics of brad pitt look a like?

 

[Helios]

I was roughly guessing. I actually believe 170 pounds is overweight for that height, unless of course we are talking someone with < 12% body fat.

2 years ago, I was 165 at 5'10 and the doc said I was out of the suggested range.

wait, wat, are you talking about women or men here?

It's pretty easy for a guy to be healthy at 170(even thin), if he doesn't have a toothpick, petite frame on him.

 

[Silmatharien]

wait, wat, are you talking about women or men here?

It's pretty easy for a guy to be healthy at 170(even thin), if he doesn't have a toothpick, petite frame on him.

No kidding. I was 165 at 5'6.5" and wasn't overweight.

 

[2397]

Ex is ~5'9 and at his heaviest was between 165-170 when he was working out/putting on muscle. Looked really good. Now he's eating less, not lifting (just jogging) and down to like 150. Still attractive to me, but I preferred when he was bigger. Not that it matters

My 'ideal' I guess would be muscular/athletic but not super defined or bulked up. "Soft" muscles as AK put it. For height I prefer 5'8 to 6'2 (I'm 5'4). However, the people I've fallen for/been with have all had different body types. Thin, fit... all the way to downright obese. Personality always trumps looks for me.

 

[Aquakittie]

However, the people I've fallen for/been with have all had different body types. Thin, fit... all the way to downright obese. Personality always trumps looks for me.

well, minus the obese part. But I don't really have a "type" when it comes to body build. I have my preferences from personal experience, but my ex's have been all over the map body type wise.

My SO is probably the biggest guy I've ever dated. He's like 6'5"+ and is ranging in the 270-300lb area and built like a football player. and I'm only 5'2" but on the thicker side...but ironically I prefer his body type to anyone I've dated prior. I WILL say that it can be more difficult to find comfortable positions when one partner is substantially bigger than the other. My hips tend to hurt a lot after sex just because he's way wider in the hips than me.

 

[2397]

I'll take too skinny over too fat though.

I'll admit, I used to prefer chubby guys when I was a lot younger.

But it wasn't because I thought they were more manly-looking over their leaner counterparts. I liked guys who were a bit out of shape because I was massively insecure and thought I'd have more success with someone who wasn't so obviously concerned about their own appearance (and presumably, wouldn't place such a high value on my appearance either ).

I have a friend who used to be the same way. She always insisted she preferred a guy with "meat on him"/bigger than her, but as soon as she started losing weight herself and seeing herself as "thin", she was suddenly attracted to thinner guys as well. I'm thin myself but I would choose "too fat" over "too skinny" these days. I don't think it stems from insecurity in my case, but I'm turned on by feeling 'small' in comparison...

 

[Dahlia]

I have a friend who used to be the same way. She always insisted she preferred a guy with "meat on him"/bigger than her, but as soon as she started losing weight herself and seeing herself as "thin", she was suddenly attracted to thinner guys as well. I'm thin myself but I would choose "too fat" over "too skinny" these days. I don't think it stems from insecurity in my case, but I'm turned on by feeling 'small' in comparison...

this too, It's hot for a guy to be able to throw you around in bed and really skinny guys seem like they'd be meh about that.

 

[2397]

this too, It's hot for a guy to be able to throw you around in bed and really skinny guys seem like they'd be meh about that.

Well that and I better be able to sit in his lap comfortably without his legs giving out.