ah this is killing me....recently things with my gf have been really wierd. I dont know exactly what it is or how to pin point it. weve been going out for a year and a half now and its really not the same as it used to be. we used to have a LD relationship, for th first 3 months, so of course, when we actually got to see eachother it was great, we were all over eachother, and it was still new so u know how it is in a new relationship. so after 3 months we decided to give up our v-cards to eachother...we had both waited (22) till that point and both agreed that we wanted to do it so we did. it has been kinda sparatic since then. it was on and off for a few months, she wasnt sure if we should do it a lot, she didnt want the relationship to be based upon physical stuff. anyway, shortly after the 3 month mark she moved back and now we are literally 5 minnutes away. we see eachother every day, im usually over there after she gets home and we chill and watch tv. we have mutual friends so the wekends are spent with eachother, either with riends or together with a movie. i sometimes think that the biggest problem is that we see eachother waay to much. aside from actually sleeping at the house every night, we are basicaly always together. shes works full time and has a busy schdule. like 45-50 hrs a week, plus she works on the side on her days off too so shes busy. im finnishing up school, so i have more free time than she does. latley we basicaly get physical 1 time a week. it ends up being sex prolly 2 times a month and then just fooling around, and doing other stuff the other 2 times. im fine with not having sex everytime, other stuff is just as fun, i dont have a problem with that, but latley i feel like i have to do all sots of stuff to get to that point. backrub or work up to it for like an hour, its annoying. i feel like she will never initiate anything, and if i suggest something, she gets pissed and says "dont ask like that" as if its bd to suggest something. it makes me feel like a jerk when i know im not being one. recently i just feel like were not clicking like we used to. i feel like shes always workig against me, like she is trying to get an upper hand or something, and i dont htink anyone should ever have an upper hand, i think both people should just have mutual respect. im getting pretty annoyed, i feel like i give 110% and she gives like 80%, she hardly goes out of her way for me anymore, even if its important, and i bring it up and she just doesnt really respond to anything i say. i love so many things about her and shes soooo fun to be with cause shes funny as hell and outgoing and so beautiful, but i dont know what else to do. we have been fighting a lot latley and i donno how to fix it. i look foward to so much with her, but at the same time, i dontk now if its worth it anymore. ive never felt this way, that i actually consider leaving her, but its been running though my head alot, and i know if i left her, it would be ugly, she would spite me, and i know i would regret leaving. anyon have any suggestions as to what to do? i know im only 22 and have plenty of life ahead, but i don wanna leave a great girl over something stupid, i just kinda want things to be normal again. i feel like were just in a slump, i feel like we dont do anything fun anymore or different, its soooo routine. maybe thats the problem. winter is ending and i know summer will bring more opps. to do cool stuff and we will. i also suggest doing new stuff in bed, and we did like 1 time, but after that its like, i cant get her into bed to even do anything. its like she wants to have complete control, or know she has control. i donno, shes not a controling type of person so i dont know what broght this on. ahh, how do you know when to let go of something good?