Those in couples, do you both do birthdays, anniversaries, xmas? Does one do more than the other? Is it a problem? We are coming up on our second wedding anniversary and I have arranged flowers to be delivered to his work (6 yellow flowers to represent the years we have been together as friends & two red roses to represent the years of marriage, totally 8 years all up) and organising a special shirt for him (2nd anniversary is cotton). There are several weeks to go but my husband has said he hasn't got me anything and he won't - he just doesn't have time. He doesn't buy me xmas presents (or anyone for that matter) and he doesn't buy anniversary gifts. He does however go on and on about how he would but it's just too hard. When we first started dating he put in the effort but once he knew i was his he gave up. I keep thinking maybe one day he will surprise me, but I have yet to have him do anything I put effort in because I want to. Because I love him and I want to make him feel special by arranging special treats - not because I want him to do it for me. I haven't been totally disappointed yet, I have come to accept it. What happens in your relationship?