Okay, so I have this problem My ex cheated on me all through our relationship and he would also check out other females and comment about them. There was rarely a female he saw that he didn't make a comment about. Now, keep in mind that this relationship ended over 6years ago and I still have this issue. Every woman I see I see as a sexual object. I see as a 'possible' threat and can't just see them as a woman or other human. My current SO is a loving man who adores me and only me and has never made women into sexual objects or even made reference to 'Oh, I'd like to fuck that'. To him other women are just that, other women who co-exist on this planet. I know this issue isn't about my sexuality because if it was, my dormant bi-sexuality would mean I would do it to men as well and I don't. I sit here wondering if it is just a sign on the times and that society as a whole does this but I can't kid myself. I know this is a left over scar form my past relationship. Every time I see a female I 'rate' her. I look at the aspects of her body that I like and don't like and this can't be healthy for my self esteem or my view of women in general The thing that sparked this thought in my head was when I was coming back from getting a wax. I thought about my SO getting something done and then I switched onto "But the waxer is a female and I dunno? is she hot? hot enough for So to crack onto?... yada yada yada" I dunno what to think I am well aware that issues from my past relationship and they have left some very VERY deep scars.