really just need to vent more than anything, so any responses will be greatly appreciated however not entirely necessary. dating a girl for the past 7-8 weeks. she's been good friends with two of my good friends for two weeks and one year longer than I've known them, respectively (both males). one of them I've clearly identified as being "friend-zoned," and the other I feel threatened by. we all hang out all together and everything is great, we all talk online together, and everything is great, however lately, it has come to my attention that the one I feel threatened by talks to her on the phone latenight, after she gets off the phone with me, until one or the other falls asleep. I see this type of conversation to be a lot more intimate than conversations during the day, and generally don't care for it. gf assures me that I have nothing to worry about and that he's just a friend and will never be anything more, but from past experiences, I've learned to not be so foolish as to believe everything my gf tells me, even though I really want to outright trust this one. when I question my friend, he tells me he has no interest in her and that they're just friends. I confront her about it and pretty much lay it out as "I'm uncomfortable with y'all talking after we get off the phone, and really feel as though either a) I should be the last person to say 'goodnight' to you, or b) the nightly phone calls really aren't necessary when you can talk on aim or when you've already seen one another during the day" (which we do, every single day). Her general response is that she "doesn't care," because she doesn't see the harm in it as according to her "there's no threat," regardless of how I feel. trusting as I may be, in the back of my head I have come to know that eventually something could develop, and I'm simply trying to prevent the inevitable. this does nothing to deter her, and generally makes me feel like she's making no attempt to remedy something that clearly upsets me (we've argued about this same subject for the past week now, every night, and it's getting really old). on the other hand, there's my ex. I've talked to her twice over the past few weeks, once because I had a pretty graphic nightmare in which she died and it scared me enough to call and check on her, and the other when she txt'ed me about her grandmother's attempted suicide. during both of those conversations, I generally picked up how her life without me (we've been apart ~3 months) is very lacking, and that she really cares for me, misses me, etc. in many aspects, I feel the same towards her, and know that if I were with her that the drama mentioned above would disappear, and that, for a change, I'd feel loved. the new girlfriend just isn't up to the task of making me feel 'special,' and realistically, generally doesn't give off the attitude that she gives a damn about our relationship. when we're one on one, things are great, but due to outside circumstances, that won't be a possibility for us over the coming months, making a troublesome relationship problematic for the time to come. it's understood that the general attitude on this board is that dealing with ex's is a bad idea, especially one like this, who cheated on me in the past (admittedly kissing another guy), but in a time like this, when all I really want is to feel like I mean something to someone, would it be so wrong of me to just suck it up and go back to her? time will tell. thanks in advance!