To start off this is going to be really long. Me and this guy are friends at work he is old enough to be my dad. He’s married no kids, I am in a committed relationship of 3.5 yrs next month. He has cheated. We have relatively the same seniority we were hired in a month apart with him being the month ahead. Well over the past 2.5 years or so we have been friends we work together. We have never done anything outside of work. He has this aurora at work of being the creepy old guy. Fast Forward: He has had sexual harassment stuff brought against him at work, I know about this however, I am not supposed too. He never really did anything wrong just women that have their head so far stuck up their asses they need glass stomachs to see. He was let go at his previous employer for the same reasons (he was at fault at this employer). In fact the next time he gets in trouble at our employer he’s fired. Now we have had a pretty open relationship we talk about everything. He has never made a pass at me, never asked me out etc. He and I have made sexually explicit comments at work but not directly about each other. Im not the prettiest girl in the place by any means of the word. Technically, I am overweight by a pretty good bit but I carry it very well and have a big chest. I showed him a pic of some working being done to my house and in the reflection of a window you can see my nipples are quite hard. I didn’t realize this before I let him see the photo or I would have never showed it to him or anybody else. I did inspect the pics before I showed them to others, I didn’t just show it to him. The first thing he notices and comments on is the fact that he can see my nipples in my shirt. He asks if it was cold outside and just happy to see somebody. He also tells me not really in private, but didn’t talk in a normal voice that he had always wanted to know what my nipples looked like. I was completely put aback by the statement because I knew he wasn’t joking. I wanted to reach across my desk and his and knock him out of his chair. I told him that it was uncalled and quite offensive he apologized. I put it behind me. Another Situation: Me and another girl I work with go to the same college, and we are on facebook, and we were commenting on how work blocked facebook and myspace and sites of the like and how that sucked. My guy friend interjects himself and starts asking what’s facebook? He knew what myspace was but didn’t have a profile at the time. Later that day we were sitting at work and he says how I have a special place in my heart for him. I was like uh no I don’t I might have a place but it definitely isn’t special. I thought he was joking and went on. However, last night I get message from what I thought was some random person. The message looked like spam and I almost marked it as such but I clicked on the profile and it was my friend from work. In the message he commented in general about my pics and name I have and it just reeked of creep. I at this moment feel very invaded and just uneasy. I show the message to my boyfriend and he was like this guy is a class A creepo. I quickly upon recommendation of my boyfriend set my profile to private and don’t add him as a friend. I was very torn whether or not I should add him as a friend because of work relations afterward. Today: I go into work, and I have been doing finals for the past week, I am mentally and physically tired. He starts ragging about how work sucks, being nit picky and all in all being a big sandy vagina. I told him since he complains about the job so much you do one of two things; suck it up and do your job or quit. The stuff he was raggin’ on is stuff I don’t agree with but there really isn’t anything that either of us can do about. He didn’t receive that very well because I wasn’t being the warm compassionate ass kissing friend. I was in a keep’n it real mood. He leaves without saying goodbye to anyone. I talked with a mutual friend about it, and she said that it was maybe time to have a heart to heart about the issue. I agreed. Not long after I talked with her, this my guy friend leaves me 3 vm’s about how we are just friends etc etc. If he led me to think anything more hes sorry, he mentionst my boyfriend on the vm too. He doesnt mention anything about his wife. Which didn’t sit well with me. How much he respects me and is a dad type figure. Trying to explain away any liability in the situation. Which I believe is the biggest crock of bullshit ever. I really think if I would let him he would be in my pants. I am not saying that because I am being conceited or anything. I just think that’s how he would want things if I didn’t have as much respect for myself mostly and his wife and their marriage(which he is completely unhappy in) With all the information said here: What do I do? Do I go to a supervisor and mention the situation? Do I handle it between he and I? Do I ask to be moved desks so I don’t have to have any further interaction with him anymore? This is what I want to happen. We settle the issue between us go back to being strictly work friends and not talk about anything personal. I believe that 2 adult people should be able to do this. What may have to happen which I don’t want. I move desks sever contact go to a super and make a complaint and in result he is fired.