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AutoEuphoria

New Member
Mar 5, 2008
242
My fiance sleeps ALL THE TIME. 3 or 4 nights this week she has come home...I have either bought dinner or made dinner, she eats and then falls asleep on the couch until it's time to go to bed, when she'll just go to bed. Tonight, I took her out for dinner, we came home, and she wanted to watch a movie with me. Within 15 minutes she was sleeping, and she stayed that way for 4 hours...and now it's time for me to go to bed. I've talked with her about it...it gets annoying because I want to spend time with her, but she keeps falling asleep. She says it's because she has to get up at 5am and she works really hard. Well...I guess I can understand that, but wtf am I supposed to do? Any attempt to wake her up (pleasantly or otherwise) is met with hostility.
 

dude101

Active Member
Jan 25, 2006
1,903
long island
reminds me of my bf but he doesn't have a job at the moment. so Idk why he's so tired all the time..and holy shit I understand where your coming from with the hostility part..and being I'm in your shoes I'll deff like to know also what other peoples have to say on this matter
 

MissBangBang

New Member
Sep 30, 2008
359
CT
Could be her eating habits? or depression? Over sleeping tends to make you want to sleep more, which it seems she does a lot fo sleeping.

Like i said maybe its her eating habits..if she drinks coffee all day at work, of course she is going to crash...

She should check with a doctor because thats really unhealthy to sleep...

Trust me, too..My Ex always used to sleep. Then when i needed to go home i would just up and leave and he wouldnt even know because he was knocked out. I used to wait til he was sleeping for 5 mins and leave lol
 

Falconer

Well-Known Member
Jun 23, 2006
65,536
Seriously dude she's either exhausted from busting ass working, or she's got chronic fatigue syndrome (which people joke about but it's no joke) or something else going on. Did she recently start any new medications or anything? There are a lot of medications that have drowsiness as a side effect, and in some cases it takes weeks for your body to adapt.

If I got up at 5am I wouldn't feel like doing anything when I got home, either.

You say you're met with hostility. Normally I would take your side and say she's being a bitch, etc., but it sounds like there's something more going on.

How long has this been going on for?
 

Ideotique

Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco
Jul 11, 2004
11,290
Awestralia
used to get in trouble for that

Was working from 6am till 8pm for 3 weeks straight, plus sunday arvo and night

So the ex at the time berated me for only wanting to sleep at night and weekends. Didn´t understand we were preparing for court and parlimentary hearings so needed all the stuff done.

Basically what I´m saying is that sometimes work gets the better of other things. If it´s only been this week which is what I get from your original post, then just accpet it.

If it continues then probably she should go and get checked out for iron deficiency and things like that
 

iwishyouwerebeer

you shut your cunt
Sep 1, 2006
31,941
Dude, you're engaged now, learn to talk to her. Was she doing this before you popped the question? If so, why is it really bothering you now?
 

jmezz

layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours
Nov 26, 2004
11,036
My fiance sleeps ALL THE TIME. 3 or 4 nights this week she has come home...I have either bought dinner or made dinner, she eats and then falls asleep on the couch until it's time to go to bed, when she'll just go to bed. Tonight, I took her out for dinner, we came home, and she wanted to watch a movie with me. Within 15 minutes she was sleeping, and she stayed that way for 4 hours...and now it's time for me to go to bed. I've talked with her about it...it gets annoying because I want to spend time with her, but she keeps falling asleep. She says it's because she has to get up at 5am and she works really hard. Well...I guess I can understand that, but wtf am I supposed to do? Any attempt to wake her up (pleasantly or otherwise) is met with hostility.

I remember your engagement thread, now she has the ring on her finger and she's all 'GOTCHA BITCH!' :bowrofl:

This sounds exactly like what my gf and I went through early to mid this year.

She would wake up at 5am for work and get home at like 5 or 6pm unless she had class, then she would get home about 8pm.

The time we would spend together she would always be yawning and tired and falling asleep. I was understanding at first but then I just got annoyed because I want a relationship with my gf, not somebody who sleeps all the time.

There's nothing wrong with you wanting to spend time with your gf and such and there's nothing wrong with you getting bothered by her sleeping.

I told my gf that I was getting extremely bothered by it. She told me she would make a real effort to try and change it a bit and at the same time I told her I would try to be more understanding. I told her that if I didn't see any improvement that I would think about ending the relationship because I knew that I couldn't put up with dating someone like that for a long time. It wasn't fair to me.

Have a talk with her and go from there.
 

GammaRadiation

Well-Known Member
Feb 15, 2007
29,256
Random Location.FL
if she has to wake up that early, there's not much you can do to change that.

If you are getting 8-9hrs of sleep you should be able to stay alert until it is time to go to bed again for anotehr 8-9hrs of sleep.

inactivity during the day makes you tired. When she says she is "busting ass" at work, is she sitting around doing desk work or is she doing real work? If she is doing desk work, does she exercise 3-4 times per week? If not I highly suggest that. Along with that, healthy eating habits are a must.
 

Math-E

Well-Known Member
Oct 11, 2002
62,191
Lakeview
If you are getting 8-9hrs of sleep you should be able to stay alert until it is time to go to bed again for anotehr 8-9hrs of sleep.

inactivity during the day makes you tired. When she says she is "busting ass" at work, is she sitting around doing desk work or is she doing real work? If she is doing desk work, does she exercise 3-4 times per week? If not I highly suggest that. Along with that, healthy eating habits are a must.

If she's a morning person, she's unlikely to be alert late at night a couple of hours before bedtime.
 

Diesel66

OT Supporter
Feb 20, 2005
134,507
Kc
waking at 5am means she needs to be in bed by at least 10.

When does she get home ? I was used to taking a little nap every day, but then I'd stay up until midnight.
 

lbakk

Always love the smell of Play-Doh in the morning
Oct 19, 2008
274
Definitely tell her to go to the doctor
I have the same problem and I went in and had blood drawn
I found out that I may have diabetes and that's why I'm so tired.
 

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