this is something i clearly don't have. just minutes ago, i got in a heated altercation w/ my neighbor and i just stood there...getting BLASTED. backstory: so i got this neighbor, let's just say, who isn't your ideal neighbor. seems to me he likes to start things w/ people. for example, he yelled at me once when i threw a milk carton in his recycling bin (on recycling day). he came out of his car (he was going to work) and yelled, "HEY, WHAT THE FUCK? HOW WOULD YOU LIKE IT IF I START THROWING SHIT IN YOUR RECYCLING BIN? HUH?" i'm thinking...ok, it's recycling day. everything is going to end up in the same place, it's no big deal. everything i say is interrupted and countered by another illogical statement. so i let him win and said sorry. yeah ok. so tonight, it kinda happened again. my mom was parking in a parellel street and he claimed that my mom hit his car. i standing in front of my mom's car to help guide her (because it was a really tight space!) when all of a sudden this guy comes blasting from his window (we live in a 4 family condo so our living space is rather adjacent). he says, "HEY U HIT MY BUMPER! YOU GUYS NEED TO LEARN SOMETHING CALLED RESPECT!" he starts going off for about a minute then gets out of his house. he stands between me and my mom going off again how inconsiderate we are w/ some racist remarks. i'm just standing there....listening and passive. feeling weak, unconfident, and slightly trembling. this guy is about: 170lbs~, 6 foot~ i'm around: 130lbs, 5' 8" i currently train judo and jiu-jitsu. i'm pretty sure i can take him out but that's not important. i try to avoid conflicts like this, especially with someone you're gonna see almost everyday despite what happens. and to justify all this, i'm not the only neighbor who is fed up w/ him. my other neighbor thinks he's an ass too. so my question is, in situations like these: -what would you guys do here? -how do you build a good, strong mentality, especially against aggressive people? cliffs: asshole neighbor, extremely aggressive, how to deal with it?