SRS You can have two out of three

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  1. HectorChavez

    HectorChavez New Member

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    A friend of mine told me this and try as I might to dispell it I can't. I think it's an undeniable truth.

    In a relationship you can have two out of these three things.

    Love
    Forever
    Monogamy

    Thoughts?
     
  2. mahal.

    mahal. mahal kita? OT Supporter

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    love and monogamy, yes. forever, probably not since we all die in the end :dunno:
     
  3. lost04

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    i believe all three are achievable.
    or at least i would like to believe so. lol
     
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    Things which once seemed impossible when you were a child, often look very different when viewed from an adult's eyes.


    Just because you now live in the desert, don't make the mistake of believing that others couldn't possibly live in a garden of delights and plenty.

    It's up to you if you want to turn your back and remain in the desert...or find your way out.
     
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    You can have all three. You need to find someone who's willing to create and maintain that kind of relationship together with you. If you don't have that willing person, you can't have all three. If you don't have self-awareness you can't even have two...
     
  6. Falconer

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    I heard it was a girl can be 2 out of these 3:

    Attractive
    Intelligent
    Faithful

    And if she's all three, then she's crazy.
     
  7. Lokish

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    I :rofl: at that one.
    I am told by plenty that I am attractive. I know I am intelligent and have been faithful to everyone I have ever dated. Oh and I am not crazy....maybe just sanity challenged.

    Must be rare.
     
  8. HectorChavez

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    It's a big question and I think most of the responses here are coming from an emotional place which is normal enough but it's really more a question to be pondered with a certain detachment.

    For whatever it's worth, the idea doesn't upset me or put me off or turn me against love or whatever. I'm not living in a desert or unhappy in any way and this idea doesn't change that. I just thought it was an interesting thing to put out there and I think that if people were really honest with themselves they'd see some truth in it.

    Doesn't matter. I still think it's poignant and if you're right with yourself, there's nothing depressing or off-putting about it. I think it touches on human nature. Maybe it is possible to have all three. I'm not doubting the possibility. This scenario just seems a bit more down to earth.
     
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    Bruticus half dead OT Supporter

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    It's stupidly rare :)

    I know of one of them :rofl:
     
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    I think that there is absolutely no reason why u can't have all three. i know for a fact that my parents lost there virginity's to each other after getting married. They have been happily married for 28 years and i feel very lucky for this. Also,... Monogomy and forever? those ones dont really work out by themeselves do they?
     
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    :eek3: that was good
     
  12. HectorChavez

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    I'm not sure I understand the point you're making about monogamy and forever sublime??? But I will say this. Do you really think you'd know about it if your parents dealt with infidelity in their 28 years together? I mean, would they make a point to share that kind of information with you? I'm not doubting what you say or the faithfulness of your parents. I have no idea who you or they are. I'm just saying that odds are you probably wouldn't be privy to those sorts of details.

    Finally, I'm not a bad person for presenting this question though the tone of the responses has been decidedly negative. It's unfortunate really because theses are the sorts of things that, if really and truly thought about (as opposed to just reacting to) might actually lead to a real understanding (and adherance to) something resembling monogamy. It's about not shying away from the things that make you uncomfortable but really examining them and figuring out why.
     
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    tell me about it :)
     
  14. Arclight

    Arclight Hypercube

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    I knew it as:

    "For every girl you meet,

    Out of:
    Beautiful
    Sane
    Single

    Pick 2"
     
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    i'd go with love/forever/std tests
     
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    Yeah I hear you there.

    I know more then enough people who aren't happy, but are so scared of being alone, they would rather hurt someone then walk away. So sad.
     
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    I have also noticed this.
    i really agree, In my first 5 year relationship we wera faithful and i thought it was forever but i never actually loved him
    my second relationship i loved him and thought i was faithful we were married wich ment forever to me but he was unfaithful
     
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    I don't determine a relationship merely in terms of options. Besides you can have a soulmate which you love forever.
     
  19. HectorChavez

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    Okay

    Beautiful
    Sane
    Single

    Cracked me up. I'll definitely be stealing that one. Hilarious.
     
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    I get around this by having threesomes. So she's not faithful, but neither am I, and we both have fun. :naughty: Been working fine for years now.
     
  21. HectorChavez

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    Whoa, you go with your bad self PocoDiablo!
     
  22. sublime335

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    there wasent really a point to that last part. Maybe I'm just naive but I believe that all three are possible and I see many others with that same thought. I'm not sure how it is a negative response to believe that people can have loving monogomous relationships, forever. I'm a very romantic person, so this is probably the wrong thread for me.
     
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    :mamoru:
     
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    the kicker is that you can see all three, but people change so you can lose one or all.
     

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