I've seen a lot of emphasis on being an "alpha male" in this forum, and I think its a little bit of bullshit. Main Entry: alpha male Part of Speech: n Definition: a domineering man; the dominant member in a group of males, esp. animals An alpha male is the dominant member of a group. He's the guy that doesn't take shit. He's the guy that doesn't back down. He isn't defined by how much ass he gets, but by how he interacts with other males. Women are attracted to this, so the average guy emulates these characteristics. Here is the rub: sticking feathers in your ass doesn't make you a chicken. Imitating a set of behaviors does not fundamentally change who you are. There is no point in striving to be the alpha male when all it takes to have better luck with women is some self confidence and a backbone. Every time I see somebody bragging about being an alpha male, and beta males picking up his table scraps, it makes me want to hit my head against a wall.